The holidays are right around the corner and with that means holiday gift giving. Adoptive parents, you are not obligated to get your child’s birth parents a Christmas gift. BUT (yes, there is a but.) Why wouldn’t you at least sign your name to a simple card, just to let them know they’re thought of? As a birth mother, I frequently get asked by adoptive parents what they should get their child’s birth mother for Christmas. And as much as we all love Christmas cookies, I don’t have a cookie cutter answer to that question.
There are so many factors that go into gift giving, especially when it is someone as important as your child’s birth mother. Of all the factors to consider – money is not one of them. Adoptive parents – you could send us birth parents a napkin with some chicken scratch on it that our child did and we would be over the moon. It’s not about the money, it’s about the meaning, the thought, the love, the relationship.
I have tried to assemble a Holiday Gift Guide that encompasses both ends of the spectrum for birth mom relationships. From the distant, to the consistent, to the kick open the front door relationship, I think I have a gift idea for you!